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More than a third of Jakarta's population lives in the city's slums. According to the Jakarta Post, the only solution to the city's infrastructure problem is an injection of funds, which one article posits should come from a transfer of the nations capital.

According to the World Bank, the city grows by an influx of about 250,000 newcomers per year - ten percent of the city's current estimated population. That's like having more than two thirds of the population of Victoria move to Jakarta every year. And these people aren't moving there because the city promises them great wealth. They are moving there because the countryside is even poorer.

These statistics make the situation seem hopeless, but people like Ronny Poluan are working to make a difference.

Poluan is a Jakarta artist with an interest in improving the lives of city residents. He does this by offering tours of the city and using the proceeds to help provide low-income micro loans and medical care to the slum communities.

While critics seem to claim that Poluan himself is profiting off of the tours, I think that that the Jakarta Post's solution would likely result in a smaller percentage of funds going straight into these communities.

You can see for yourself how the people of Jakarta's slums feel about these tours in the video below:

You can get another wife or husband but not another mother or father

"You can get another wife or husband but not another mother or father" is an Indonesian saying that illustrates the logic in familial loyalty when it comes to dating and relationships. While family loyalty is a good thing to say the least, double standards do exist in Indonesian dating culture relevant to the debate on sexism in society.

Both men and women are expected to remain loyal to their families above all else. If you start dating an Indonesian girl, going to meet her family is important and should happen early in the relationship. Not doing so may even be viewed as sneaky or underhanded.

Making a good impression is also important because an Indonesian's loyalty to his or her parents does not end at the wedding altar. Marrying an Indonesian means marrying an Indonesian family, including (but not limited to) parents and siblings. Moreover, if you are dating an Indonesian, whose family is struggling, and you are in a position to help that family, your partner's culture expects you to do so. Not doing so will likely be met with a huge lack of sympathy.

Indonesian women are stereotyped as beautiful, gold-digging drama queens and committed traditional wives. This writer full-heartedly believes the opposite and everything in between is also possible, but the stereotype does illuminate the beginning of the double standards.

Stereotypically: Men are the bread winners. Women are the homemakers. Men are admired for their pre-marital sexual exploits, whereas they are reluctant to marry women who are no longer virgins - even if they are the one's who took her virginity.

While dating, Indonesian women are expected to be pakipot, which means playing hard to get, as part of the courtship dance (see this web site). On the other hand, it's not unusual for a father to bring his son to a brothel for his sexual initiation. A pakipot-style courtship may last for years, with no touching or open displays of affection before the couple becomes magkasintahan, a word that basically means boyfriend and girlfriend.

It's the responsibility of the boy to follow the girl's family customs and, if he is unsure of these customs, he's expected to ask her older siblings or cousins.

The double-standard does not seem to be lost upon Indonesian women either. It seems that many Indonesian women like the idea of partnering up with Western men because they are stereotyped as more loving and modern than their Indonesian counterparts. This in itself seems sexist and racist, but I'm aiming at not passing judgment, since I'd really like to form a better understanding of how it is not sexist and racist.